Last night i went over Marth’s house to hang out with his parents. 🙂 He was about two hours away with one of his friends, who’s a pastor at another church. We had an awesome time; they gave me food and let me pick thru the movies they were getting rid of (MATRIX on vhs, Fantastic Four, Open Season and Star Trek: Nemasis on DVD, for the win!) and we watched Night Court and talked. 🙂 About Marth, about cars, and travelling and life, and family and money and just growing-up stuff 🙂 It was absolutely amazing. 🙂
The episode we watched guest starred Michael J Fox, as a troubled teenager who wanted to get married, and insisted that neither of their parents cared what they did. Harry Stone, the judge, kept insisting that even if their parents didn’t care, his attorney, the guy who was convinced he was Santa Claus, and Harry himself did care about him. Michael (or Eddie, his character) blew it off, saying that it was all talk and people said that all the time even tho they didn’t mean it.
Finally, realizing the conversation wasn’t getting him anywhere and Eddie was just freaking out more, Harry grabs him over the shoulders and hugs him. Eddie tries to squirm away and says “What are you doing??! Let me go!” And Harry won’t. He just says “I’m hugging you, you dummy! Now shut up-” Eddie fights even more. “…Shhh…shut up.” Harry says gently and won’t let go. Eddie fights less, and finally relaxes and starts crying.
I feel like so many problems with kids in this world could be solved like that. I remember being 12-16 years old, and that was all i wanted, from anybody. I didn’t trust my parents and nobody saw that. These days, everyone’s too afraid of what people will think or what someone’s actual intentions are. And kids are suffering as a result. Everybody needs to KNOW somebody cares about them; that it’s not just all talk.
So…from one kid to the watching world: Parents. Be somebody your kids can respect. And i don’t mean be perfect. But when you make mistakes, when life is inevitable, own it. Be the best gosh-darn human you can be.
Other kids? Same deal. Look out for eachother. Give hugs, no matter what anyone thinks, for the other person’s benefit more than your own. It’s important.
*sigh* Rant over 🙂 I just saw that and realized it’s important. Why doesn’t anybody care for real anymore?
In conclusion to my night, after we watched the show and talked, I was getting ready to go home, cuz it was around 11:30 at night. I got halfway out to the car and Marth’s dad called me back. I stepped back into the house, and Marth’s mom handed me $50. My lip started trembling and they explained that when their kids were little (“usually after the tax return”, Mrs. said, smiling) their dad would give them a few bucks, just because. And now i’m basically their kid too, and they wanted me to have it, because they loved me.
It was just amazing to see the provision of God that night, cuz the fuel light in my car had just gone on, and i literally had $4 to my name…Rent was due today and i don’t get paid until Friday. I could have dipped into my savings but i really didn’t want to do that…So it was just awesome. 🙂 They both hugged me and sent me on my way, and i called Marth on my way home…it was just amazing 🙂 Good times with great people. 🙂