Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat – Lucky

Marth showed me this song while we were at school and i remembered he laughed and said “i love this song, even tho it doesn’t apply to me at all.”
well…watching the video for the first time made me laugh so hard…cuz it’s a classy Jason, walking around a tumblr-esque town in a tie, riding in an old car, and just being like I can see Marth being, and Colbie is all island/forest girl, walking in the water in her bare feet, and probably playing with some woodland or ocean creatures, with her hair all blowing around…like i would be. πŸ™‚ Love. ❀

Marth Allen

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“Quiet by nature, standing tall…I feel the waves begin to rise; far across the ocean, deep within your eyes.” – Blackmore’s Night

(Still my favorite picture of you, you sweet man, even if it is almost two years old)

I post alot about my boyfriend, I know. πŸ™‚ But if you had a boyfriend and best friend as amazing as i do, you’d post alot of blog posts about him too πŸ˜‰
I can’t imagine my life without you; i’ve never met someone like you, in that way. Our relationship is different from that of any other i’ve ever had, with anyone, and while i’m confident that should God wish me to be with someone else, he’d give me the strength to move on. But…I think the point of being in a relationship and eventually getting married is that you’re better with the other person than you are without them. And that is definitely true for me. πŸ™‚ We’ve been thru alot already together, and i am so excited to have the rest of our lives too!! πŸ˜€ what an adventure it will be…what a privilege to share the most valuable thing i have with someone i love: My life, and your’s as well.

Thanks for always looking out for me, and keeping me safe from moths, and scary movies, and giving me hugs whenever i want them, and wrapping your arm around Β my shoulder while we’re sitting in church together, and randomly kissing me, even in front of other people, for encouraging me to try new things…For never being fazed by anything; always taking even the craziest news with strength, wisdom, and ease.
Thanks for being different from me. πŸ™‚
Because you’re the Kirk to my Spock, and i’m so lucky to be in love with my best friend. πŸ™‚

“I can’t! [be with someone else.] You’re it for me, forever.” ❀

“Breathe. Be Silent. All is well, my friend.” -Marth

Wow, i’m sorry i haven’t had much to write about in so long, my friends…

It’s been a little crazy this past week. I’m working almost full-time hours now…Marth and i had our 1-year “anniversary” of dating on Friday, and while we were driving home from getting ice cream, i hit a raccoon that came out of nowhere, and further damaged the leaking coolant lines in my car. It’s now shooting transmission fluid out the front end whenever the car is running, and i’ve gone thru almost 8 quarts of fluid in two days. It’s really scary, cuz if there’s not enough in it, the engine rushes something awful and sounds like a racecar, and handles like a bucking bronco with tourettes. i’ve called my dad and brother in Maine so many times just to ask for advice what to do with it and i stubbornly refuse to ask Marth’s parents for money. He and i had a (*cough*) loud conversation about it last night.

Tonight, tho, after i finished dumping three more quarts into it, his dad asked about it, and we sat down and talked for probably about an hour, or more. About insurance and how we’re going to work out the rest of the week while the car goes into the shop on Wednesday, and me, Marth, and his mom have to share the Malibu until sunday, (with the two of us working and she has to do errands and such.)

I appreciate the bluntness of Marth’s father, and what a classic Dutch man he is. He tells things like they are, and will repeat it as many times as you need to understand, but won’t sugar coat anything.
i lost it, finally, when we were talking about the auto insurance, and i was repeating everything back to him, making sure i understood. I leaned back against the couch finally and sighed frustratedly.
“I should have made sure i knew all this already.”
Marth’s dad just shook his head and it took me a moment to finally look up into his eyes. His face had the same gentle expression that i’ve seen on Marth’s face, when what he’s about to say next is designed to comfort, and he’s serious about it.
“You’re learning.” He said. “You’re already an adult, and now you’re just taking some important steps…No one your age knows all this stuff yet.”
The tears were coming, but i kept stopping them.

I’m so thankful for Marth’s family. Besides his dad being smart, and honest, his mom gives the best hugs, and his sister always, ALWAYS, has a smart comment for everything, (which honestly makes me laugh a ton) and is a great conversationalist…his brother-in-law always smiles; always has a kind word and a great, genuine smile for me, even if it’s just randomly across the kitchen when we happen to glance in eachother’s direction. And sweet Marth…is the perfect culmination of all of them. Truthful, smart, caring, honest, witty, happy and genuine, and alot of other amazing things i don’t have enough time to list now, since it’s 15 after midnight and i need to be up at 7:30 tomorrow to leave by 8…I’m stopping at Marth’s Sunoco for breakfast and fuel before work at 9 πŸ™‚

Oy vey. My life just got so much more complicated (besides the car, the air mattress i’ve been sleeping on popped last night, for the second time so i’ve been sleeping on the couch…the cherry on top of the crapulous mess that is my life at this time haha) but for some reason, even more so than ever before, i’m even more confident that somehow it’s going to be alright. πŸ™‚

One Year Down, The Rest of Our Lives to Go. :)

Two days ago, Friday, marked an entire year of me and Marth dating. πŸ™‚ its so amazing to think about!! It was a super busy day; not quite different from the same day a year ago πŸ™‚ I had to work, and i got a little ticked at him in the morning, (for nothing serious; i was just agitated.) but it was just silly stuff.

We had a great night tho; he brought me a sub from DiBella’s that was as big as i am…

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Crazy!! it was so amazing!! Bacon, turkey, veggies and multi-grain bread, with FUZE strawberry tea, and then we split a chocolate chip cookie for dessert ^_^

oh my goodness, i’ve never been so thankful for someone in my entire life. All the crazy things we do together, how far we’ve come, how much we’ve grown. I wouldn’t change it for the world. πŸ™‚

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Honestly Tho…(Relationship Stuff)

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Hi friends. Meyla here, codename: jaykorhyen.

I told you all the story of Marth and i started dating, and i post “everyday” statuses that let you know what we’re up to.
But, I really need you all to understand something. When i met Marth, I knew he was something special. I couldn’t truly pinpoint concrete reasons why i thought this, except the obvious: He’s nice, he’s sweet, he looks out for me like a brother, most of all he’s very selfless when it comes to me; when it comes to everyone! But especially with me. He wasn’t clingy (aka he’s confident), he was 100% honest all the time, and most of all, he was human, and made me feel like i could be as well. Bible school was not really the optimal place to start dating; i’m truly glad we didn’t start dating/looking at eachother in a romantic sense sooner than we did. We became best friends first. I’m not just saying that cuz everyone says that; he literally was my best friend. On a day-to-day basis, there was no one i’d rather be with, at any point in time, even if we were just sitting up on the backboard of a basketball net, listening to music, being silent.
Our Island camp was a great place to start a romantic relationship, cuz, let’s be real, it was summer, and we were two best friends, together and in love. But we also really saw the realness of eachother that we didn’t before. We saw eachother tired, and angry, and hungry and irritable, and kinda smelly too, but we were also there to laugh and hug eachother when some of the most amazing things in our lives happened, and also when we needed someone to cry with at 2AM, or someone to talk with at 6AM.
Long distance for 8 months compounded that understanding. I especially had to learn to be understanding, and not jump to conclusions and give Marth the benefit of the doubt, even when he handled things differently than i would. In retrospect, i am so proud of him. He’s not a huge texter, or “keeper-in-touch” with people the way i am, probably because he values genuinity, and small-talk every couple months doesn’t really cut it for him with people. But he did a wonderful job.
I would strongly recommend long-distance, at some point in time for couples. I’m not sure exactly how you’d work it; maybe thru school or one moves to another state with relatives for 6 months to a year, because….Long distance killed one of my relationships, and it made another one the gem it is now. It will show you both who you are, i promise you.

On a somewhat related topic, Marth and I don’t believe in having sex before we’re married (we aren’t going to hate you if you don’t believe the same. We live our lives by a criteria that says that’s not best, so we won’t. No hate has entered the equation.) but that doesn’t stop us from having a ton of fun as we get to know eachother really well! You’d be amazed how much fun stuff there is to do, if you employ a little self-control, and focus on positives!
All this said, lots of crazy stuff happening as a couple is good. You’ll know. You’ll just know.

I also want to dispell a popular myth about relationships. My brother used to tell me he “knew a girl too well, to like her, LIKE THAT.” Like freaking what??? You are going to get naked with this person someday; do you not want it to be someone who knows you better than anyone else in the world and still loves you??? uuugh, that grinds my gears and just makes zero sense to me that people can think that they know someone too well to have a relationship with them, unless it’s cuz of something bad, that you know you can’t spend the rest of your life with. Know your limitations before you start dating, and don’t make petty things dealbreakers. You want someone to see your heart and the real “you”, your soul, for what it is. See them the same way. When you get that mutual view of eachother; two people who love eachother for their souls…it’s rare, but it happens. And you just want to spend the rest of your lives looking out for eachother. It’s MUTUAL. You have your own stuff; don’t link your facebooks or not allow eachother to get their own drinks when you go out to eat, that’s weird. πŸ˜› But always be willing to share, and put eachother before yourself. You can trust, because the other person’s always got your back. Always. πŸ™‚

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P.S – Culmination of all this good relationship stuff? You have a friend, who will strike silly, dramatic Avengers poses with you while you’re making cookies in your matching aprons and messy hair XD For the rest of your life!! It’s always a good time ^_^ )

Marth and Meyla’s Wild Weekend!

Wow, guys, i haven’t written in two days. :/ i wholeheartedly apologize…Marth’s parents have been away, so he’s had the house to himself all weekend, and they won’t be back until wednesday. We’ve had a great time tho! We went to Ithica on Friday, just to walk around and go to thrift stores, and then we went to Starbucks…and while he agreed it’s quite pricey, he liked it!! (i love starbucks so much…not the ones in Target tho; they don’t capture the spirit of coffee shops at all…)
Thru a series of misadventures, which involved getting lost while looking for the car (cuz i forgot to save the address of the random curb we parked it on cuz i refuse to pay for parking, anywhere.), getting caught in rain, and having to pull over on the highway, and then stopping at TOPS for ice cream, we made it home and went to bed.

Saturday morning, i had work at 1, and Marth’s best friend Caleb came over that afternoon, and was there at night when i stopped by to get what was left over in my pint of ice cream from the night before (priorities, you know…)
I took a hot shower and was so tired, i completely forgot to even get online and put music on to sleep to, i just fell onto my bed and died…Hot showers will do that to you; make you tired…

Sunday morning, i told Marth i would be there around 9:30 so we could make it to church on time and i wore my new dress that he bought me from one of the thrift stores in Ithica ^_^ But, when i got there, Marth was out cold. He was supposed to set up chairs and tables for sunday school the night before, and he forgot. He ended up jumping out of bed around 4 in the morning, walking across the parking lot to the church and working until about 7, and now he was dead. So…i wasn’t going to drag him out of bed while he was like that, even to church. The boy has trouble staying awake on a normal Sunday; i was setting myself up for disaster if i tried to get him out of bed now, when he could hardly talk straight. So, we were heathens and stayed home. πŸ˜‰ XD We had friends over that afternoon; Mark’s old roommate came up from Rochester, and Caleb and his fiancΓ©e came over later too for a bit πŸ™‚ We had bacon cheddar cheeseburgers, went to TOPS and the boys got Martinelli sparkling juice (It’s an Andy Mineo song that they sing every time they buy it; it’s quite funny…) and i got yogurt, cuz i like to pretend i’m healthy. πŸ˜‰
Then we came home and watched Captain America: Winter Soldier, which i hadn’t seen yet, and Marth fell asleep in the middle of… XD
Then, Greg had to go home, cuz he had to be back in Rochester before dark, and Caleb and Amy went to a concert at the church…Marth and i drove down the road to his work cuz he forgot what time he was supposed to work today, and was disappointed to find that he worked 5-2 today, so i couldn’t stay late.

So we had dinner, did dishes and watched Madagascar and made out until 11ish…it was kinda amazing ^_^ we always have a great time when we’re together; i guess that’s why we’re dating. πŸ™‚
I should have posted something yesterday, while i was up eating popsicles and watching Raising Hope until 1AM….didn’t cross my mind.